I’m Not Arrogant!!!

Love is not arrogant…

Yesterday we looked at the fact that love does not brag. Arrogance, as we saw yesterday is rather closely related to bragging (boasting). But there are some differences. So, what is the difference between bragging (boasting) and arrogance?

Bragging says, “Look at me! Look at me!”

Arrogance says, “This is me. This is me.”

Now, if we’re not careful here we can begin to name of some folks we think fall into these categories. But that’s not for us to focus on. We are to focus on whether or not we are acting this way. A great lesson to learn is when you see someone else making a mistake, that, instead of judging them, you learn from their misfortune and you apply it to your life.

Understand something, many times we don’t even truly know we are bragging or being arrogant in our beliefs, our lives, and our relationships.

As the song says, “it’s a slow fade.”

We can consume ourselves so much with doing work for God that we end up doing work that is not of God. Sometimes, many times, God allows those things to play out and then we think, “Wow, I must be doing pretty well in the sight of God, He’s blessing me.”

But that is when Love steps in and shows you that anything that you come up with is like a filthy rag (Isaiah 64:6).

And here is a wonderful truth about Love (God), His rebuke, many times, is so quiet and so simple that it burrows deep into our hearts and touches the one and only place it needs to.

Just like He just did…

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Maybe the Mirror Does Lie

Love does not brag…

Pride. It is the acid to our hearts. When someone brags (boasts) about something there is an air of pride around them that others seem to find deplorable.

Akin to pride is haughtiness. That’s a word that describes someone who is conceited, arrogant (which we will look at tomorrow Lord willing), and overconfident.

Now, think about Christ for just a moment. When, in all of Scripture did you find Him to be prideful, haughty, conceited, arrogant, or overconfident? Never. Ever. Why? Because He IS Love.

True love is humble, sacrificial and places the other person’s needs before its own. A humbled heart actually, if it is going to boast or brag, will do so to or for someone else.

I could spend hours boasting about my wife and how incredibly wonderful, kind, caring, gracious, and patient she is.

But when I turn the table to myself, I only see mistakes, errors, hang-ups, and failures.

You see, we see ourselves as wounded, God sees us as healed.

Where we see our mistakes, God sees a opportunities to improve us to make us look more like His Son.

Pride, haughtiness, conceit, and overconfidence are all aimed toward one person…me.

The Bible is clear, if we are going to boast of anything it should be about God (2 Corinthians 10:17). And that is exactly what I do when I boast about my lovely wife. I boast about the God who changed her heart and is making her new.

Maybe…just maybe…there is a lesson to be learned here. Maybe we should spend our time and energy boasting about what God has done for others…

Hmmmm….just a thought.

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If God is Jealous, Why Can’t I Be?

Love is not jealous…

Unfortunately, those two words go together more often than not. There are many times when people that are actively in relationships find themselves feeling the sting of jealousy. Jealousy has its roots in a dark place. It stems from a self-centered, self-absorbed mind that wants things a certain way. When we normally think of jealousy and love we think of a cheating spouse, a boyfriend who “can’t look away,” or even a friend who doesn’t seem to want to talk anymore.

Jealousy has its tentacles in the unknown. What if…he does, she does, he doesn’t, or she doesn’t? Because we do not know our minds play tricks on us.

Closely related to jealousy is suspicion. This is also a tool that can be misused. There are many times when intuition and godly counsel show a situation to be true, but there are some times when suspicion, like jealousy, run wild.

There is one thing we know for sure, jealousy (humanly speaking) does no one any good…ever.

BUT WAIT! God says He’s jealous (Exodus 20:5)! That is true. And the proper meaning to this is that God is zealous that worship alone be given to Him, for He alone deserves worship. His jealousy is a holy jealousy rooted in His nature. Our jealousy is an evil emotion which is rooted in our sin nature. Very different…very different indeed.

So how do we overcome human jealousy? Trust God.

If the person you are with has an affair…

If the boy won’t keep his attention on you…

If that friend is wandering off to a place you don’t want to go and you don’t think they should either…

Trust God.

When we become entangled in the arms of jealousy it is very hard to escape. Rather, dive yourself into the arms of Jesus…His arms are perfect.

He is the ONLY one you can truly trust to never leave you or forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:8).

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Why don’t you go ahead…

 

Love is kind…

Kindness. A seemingly lost art in today’s society. As we have seen previously, God is love, that means that each of these descriptions is actually a description of God; and as we are now in Christ, we have the ability (through Christ) to love like God…because of God.

So this morning, let’s look at kindness. A life of kindness is a life filled with peace. When the person at the store is ranting and raving about how long it takes to get through the checkout line, kindness asks them to go ahead of you.

When the person is in that merge lane (which my wife and I call the “sling shot” lane) and they cut you off, kindness gives them space to move in.

You see, kindness (like all of these characteristics) puts the other person’s needs and wants before you. We may look at the situation and think, “Well, they don’t deserve…” because society has taught us that we are to be out for number one and we shouldn’t be push-overs.

But kindness erases all of that because it isn’t about us, it’s about Him.

If you really want to understand what kindness looks like, look to the cross. We deserved death (Romans 6:23), but in God’s grace, mercy, and yes…His kindness, He died on a cross so that we can have a relationship with Him. We don’t deserve to have a relationship with Him, but God said, “I will lay my life down for them.” (John 10:18)

Some may say that sacrificial kindness goes unnoticed and unappreciated and that’s not fair.

Well, dying on a cross when you did nothing wrong is the epitome of not fair.

But Christ did that for you and me.

So, since God has shown us so great a kindness, let us show others that same kindness in return…let him in your lane…

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Wait for it………….

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Love is patient…

Ah, patience. The one thing we long to have but the only way to get it…is to wait for it. Quiet the oxymoron isn’t it?

But think about this for a moment. Why place patience first? God’s Word was written the way it was for a reason. There is a reason that patience is listed first in these verses.

Maybe it’s because it’s the most important…

The word patience in the Greek is μακροθυμεω (makrothumeo) which is a compound word. Makros: meaning long and thumos: meaning temper. When you put them together you have “long-tempered.” In other words, instead of reacting in anger, wrath, and malice, patience waits…

And waits…

And waits…

And waits some more.

Why? Because of what we will learn tomorrow…and the next day, and the next day after that, and the next day after that (Lord willing).

The Bible is clear that God is love (1 John 4:8). He doesn’t use it, He doesn’t become it, He doesn’t symbolize it. He IS love. It is His very being. Everything He does is because He is love. And therefore, God is patient with us.

We pray for God’s patience with us don’t we? We make many bad choices in life and ask for Him to change the outcome or forgive our faults. We long for Him to be patient with us as we grow in maturity. We all want God to be patient with us.

So, if we look back to the description of people listed yesterday and treated them with the same love (patience) that God gives us…what would our lives look like?

Maybe it’s time we showed love to others by being patient.

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The World is going to #@*! in a Handbasket…

Transgendered public restrooms…

Crooked politicians…

Dishonest leaders…

Greedy business owners…

Untrustworthy employers…

Backstabbing peers…

Back biting family members…

Unfaithful spouses…

Unruly children…

All of these things seem to run rampant in our society today. We (as followers of Christ) see the oppression and the hurtful ways which people are being treated and (sometimes worse) how others treat us. We witness hateful words, immoral decisions, and unbearable acts from the news and the lives of those around us. And at times it seems like we have no recourse. Things are helplessly spiraling out of control with no way of stopping it.

            But there is something we can do. There is a way to thwart the evil and overcome the oppression. We can use the one thing we have as Christians which is more powerful than anything wicked, malicious, or immoral…

            Love.

John 13:34-35 is so very clear. “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” Yes Christ is talking about the body, but He also instructs us on how to treat the world. He loved the world so much He died for it (John 3:16).

But for now, let me leave you with these words, “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Romans 12:21)

What is good? Love. God’s love is always good.

But what is love?

Starting tomorrow we’ll look at that very question.

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Understanding the Fear of the LORD

In a combined worship service, Pastor Gerald preached a powerful message about the Fear of the LORD.

Source: Understanding the Fear of the LORD

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